Catch-Up II

by Jay on August 29, 2014

I can’t believe it’s been over three years since I wrote a post on this blog. I started this blog because I was caught up in a very difficult and soul crushing job, and I appreciated having the outlet for creativity that this blog gave me, as well as some occasional interaction with like-minded or sympathetic people that I didn’t know. But then I quit the awful job and started an internet business, which I have absolutely loved, and have been quite successful at. And I let go of the need to blog.

Life has been good. I am still in Brooklyn, New York, with my partner M. I’m selling all kinds of products on Amazon now, both wholesale, and stuff that I find in stores on clearance. I have time to travel, to learn new things, to wander around the city, all the things I wanted to do before but was too busy. The only thing I can’t figure out now is why it took me so long to jump ship and start on my own. Maybe a lack of confidence? Well, 2011 was still a scary time, so close to the recession and all. But I have to say, I’ve never regretted my decision. I’m making twice as much money now as I was then, and I am working half as hard.

My financial situation is better. The mortgage payment on the condominium that I bought eats up a good chunk of my earnings, but the value of my condominium has almost doubled. I’m even thinking about selling it and buying a house with the profits in a cheaper part of the country so that I can eliminate the mortgage payment from my life. Not quite yet, as I am not ready to leave the city, and M. is still working. But I feel the time will come in the next year or two. As I wrote above, I have doubled my income since starting my own business, and I have a lot of ideas to grow it even more. I am able to write many expenses off as business expenses, so this helps too.

My weight hasn’t improved much, which is strange, as I have completely given up drinking. I stopped a couple years ago to lose weight. The weight never came off, but I lost the desire for alcohol. I love my clear-headed evenings spent working through new business ideas, or building new systems for my business. There is something deeply satisfying to me about working for myself, knowing that my efforts aren’t going to make someone else rich. I consider myself very fortunate to have come to this point.

And I have time to blog again. I don’t know why I’ve been so negligent about blogging. This was a good place to hold myself accountable for certain types of behaviors, and to point myself in a direction of improvement. I did have fun reading over some of my older blogs. And I’m glad to say, I have made a lot of improvements.

Most of all, I miss this blog as a place to have a conversation with myself. My thinking has changed a great deal over the past three years. If I were to use one word to describe myself in 2011, it would be “frustrated.” And my writing resonated with that frustration. It was like I had seen a world of entrepreneurship and self-fulfillment that I liked, that I wanted to join, but I was stuck in an awful job during a deep recession with debt and a mortgage holding me down. My life was filled with complications, complexity and obstacles. There was very little peace. But finally I took action and made changes. I quit the job, and am succeeding with my business. I feel far more fulfilled in my life than I did three years ago. So my conversation with myself will be different. But still necessary and interesting.

I think it’s time to give this blog a go again.



by Jay on May 20, 2011

I’ve been lax about writing in this blog – a couple reasons for it. #1, my partner M. developed an awful antibiotic-resistant infection on his leg and ended up being hospitalized for more than two weeks, and then spent the next two weeks recuperating at home.

This infection was weird. It started out benign – a little pimple on the inside of his leg, and then turned into a much bigger pimple with red, irritated skin all around it. He stopped off at a walk-in clinic to have it looked at and they recommended he go to the emergency room immediately as it was infected. Once there, they ran some tests and found that it was some rare staph infection that is resistant to all but a couple antibiotics, and they insisted on holding him there for two weeks for a course of intraveneous antibiotics.

After two weeks, they let him home. Of course I am glad that he has recovered, but never has a two bedroom condominium felt so small as it has for the past two weeks. This morning he was finally given the go-ahead by his doctor to return to work, so I have the house to myself. It’s going to take a bit of time to get back into my routine.

The other reason I’ve been away from the blog is that my internet business has been taking up a lot of my time. This is a good thing; I’m doing well with it. It has its ups and downs though. I’ll go three days without many orders, and get panicky. Then the fourth day I’ll get more business than I’ve had in a week. It’s kind of manic, and I’m going to have to work on adjusting to this flow.

One other note, I’ve lost about 8 pounds, but this is more due to stress & being busy than to any special effort on my part. Now that M’s recent drama is over, I can get back on track with my own efforts.


Lifestyle Changes

April 15, 2011

Day 5 of my diet and, other than a wayward donut yesterday, I’ve done quite well. Breakfast has been a big glass of carrot and celery juice and then either toast with almond butter or a vegetable omelette. Lunch has been a sandwich and dinner has been organic meat with steamed veggies. I’m starting to […]

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Weight Management

April 12, 2011

Last week I wrote down some thoughts about issues I have been having with Time Management. Last weekend was also the beginning of my new diet / exercise program. Ten years of sitting behind a desk in an office for 8-12 hours a day took a tool on me physically. I am about 6’0. I […]

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Time Management

April 8, 2011

It was three weeks ago yesterday that I quit my job and started running my own business full-time. I have been busier than ever since that day. I have been swamped with the daily tasks of my business, sourcing books and listing them on Amazon. Thankfully, I can say that the past 30 days have […]

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New Beginnings

March 25, 2011

Last Wednesday was my last day at my old job, as expected. May I never ever have to walk into an Investment Bank again (unless I have the good fortune to become a client!). My division had a large lunch for me on Tuesday, and then on Wednesday I had a smaller lunch with my […]

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Giving Notice

February 21, 2011

So I finally did it – gave notice to my boss that I’m leaving my job. She wasn’t particularly surprised – actually said that I had an enormous amount of patience to have stuck with it as long as I did. I don’t want to get into too many details about my job, but I […]

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February 5, 2011

I mentioned in my last post, a couple weeks ago, that I was considering leaving my job. I have finally made my decision, and will be leaving at the end of February. I can’t describe what a burden lifts off of my shoulders with this decision. I started Midlife Beginnings three years ago, when I […]

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Financial Catch-Up

January 17, 2011

A day off, and some time to catch up on my blogging. Well, that would take a few months to do, given how infrequently I’ve posted lately. Over Christmas I spent a lot of time going through my finances to see where I stand. Doing so has given me a lot of perspective as far […]

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A Bad Week

December 27, 2010

Well, I didn’t get as much writing done during my vacation week as I had hoped. Instead, I got very sick. It started on my first day of vacation—a tickly feeling at the back of my throat – and quickly grew from there. I’ve spent most of the last week in bed, huddled under a […]

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Blowing the Budget

December 12, 2010

It’s been months since I posted — and life has been a blur. My day job takes more and more of my time, and my side business has been filling up what’s left. But things are slowing down now at work….a large project is finished, and our year-end work is mostly done. The stoop sale […]

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Personal Finances — Update

July 11, 2010

It’s been a while since I wrote about my finances. Since Midlife Beginnings was originally a personal finance blog, and since I have found in the past that writing about my finances helps me to quantify them and keep them under control, I will spend some time writing about my current status. A couple years […]

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Back Again

June 26, 2010

It’s been six months since I last wrote a post on this blog. How time flies….. A lot has happened since then. The main thing is, I have bought a condominium! I’m a bit nervous about the housing market, but I found the perfect condo and decided to buy. It’s a two-bedroom / two-bath, brand […]

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To Buy or to Rent?

January 25, 2010

I am taking a four-day weekend off from work, and swore that I wouldn’t touch a computer for the entire time. I managed to hold out for three days, but today couldn’t resist catching up on my favorite blogs, on the news and on the financial markets. It’s been pouring outside all morning, I’m drinking […]

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How to Find a WordPress Theme for Your Blog

January 1, 2010

Happy New Year! To honor the holiday, I have finally settled on a new design for my blog.  I spent a lot of time Googling for WordPress templates, and after several hours exploring and experimenting yesterday, I gave up and selected an old template. Well, today I was checking the website of a holistic doctor […]

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Time Sinks

December 30, 2009

A new design for a new year. I’ve managed to fritter the entire morning away searching for a minimalist, two-column WordPress template, with no success whatsoever.  Why is there so much crap out there and so few good looking designs?  All I want is something with a bar across the top, a column in the […]

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A Mellow Christmas

December 26, 2009

Merry Christmas, all!  December 26, and the year is almost over — hard to believe.  My mom always said that time seemed to go faster as she got older and now I know exactly what she means. Christmas was good.  For the first year in the 20 years that I’ve been with M., we didn’t […]

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Apartment Hunting in Brooklyn

December 5, 2009

It finally happened.  I live in a three-unit brownstone, one apartment on each floor.  I have the main floor,  the basement and the back yard, and pay an absurdly cheap rent.  Now, after 20 years, my landlord has decided that she needs more permanency in her life (she is single and lives in a Manhattan […]

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Feeling Crappy

November 27, 2009

It’s Thanksgiving weekend and I have come down with a nasty cold.  M. caught it last week from a co-worker, and I caught it from him 3 or 4 days later.  I can’t remember the last time I’ve been really, really sick, but this has knocked me flat on my back.  I called in sick […]

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Thoughts on a Rainy Saturday Afternoon

November 14, 2009

Fall is coming to an end in Brooklyn.  We had a windstorm last night, and the leaves were all blown off of the large magnolia tree in my back yard: this morning they are a sodden mess on the floor of my garden.  We have not had a frost yet, so the impatiens are still […]

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